Find out about what a loved one has changed is a painful blow. Why is this crack appear in a relationship? Although the story of each pair is always individual, the coach Arden Mallen reflects on what invisible reasons can be hidden behind the infidelity of the partner.
Biological predisposition
Is there any considerable idea that in men the promiscuity is genetically laid down and restrained only by moral standards, some kind of scientific confirmation? Our sex drive largely depends on the activity of certain hormones. However, their dominance is not always associated with gender.
For example, the gene responsible for developing dopamine (“hormone of happiness”) plays a role in the promiscuity behavior of both men and women. The more actively he dominates, the more likely that a person has high sexual needs and, perhaps, he will not limit himself to one sexual partner. Dopamine is produced thanks to the physiologically pleasant sensations that, in particular, sex gives sex.
Studies show that more than fifty percent of men and women with the dominant of this gene are not only prone to risky acts, but also more often change partners than those whose gene is weakly expressed.
The regulation of sexual activity is also associated with the hormone vasopresin, which is responsible for the ability to attach and empathy. This is the case when the floor matters – the severity of these hormones in men explains their great tendency to fidelity to the partner.
Does this mean that a person with a certain set of genes will most likely change you? Of course not. This means that it can be more prone to this, but its behavior is determined not only by genetics. First of all, personal psychological qualities and the depth of your relationship are important.
Financial inequality
Studies allow us to say that pairs with the same income level change each other less often. Meanwhile, married men who earn much more wives, more often they are wrong. Study of sociologist Christian Munsha (Connecticut University) shows that housewives find lovers in 5% of cases. However, if the decision is made by the decision and take care of the children, the probability of its betrayal is 15%.
Unresolved conflicts with parents
The experiences that pursue us from childhood can contribute to the fact that in relations with a partner we repeat a negative scenario. If parents did not know how to solve family problems and often conflict, then the children take this model of relationships to adult life. The infidelity of the partner becomes a way to avoid an open and honest conversation.
Srate, excessively controlling parents often find themselves the reason that we, out of a sense of protest, are punishing a change in a partner who is associated with a mother or father. In fact, anger and resentment are aimed at
the parent with whom we continue to conduct an internal dialogue.
Attitude to the former partner
If the chosen one is still crowded with hot, even negative feelings for the previous partner, it is likely that one day he will return to the last story. He will finally need to figure it out: to complete or continue.
We often incorrectly interpret the expression “I hate the former/uu”. This does not mean that the relationship is completed, on the contrary, hatred is a strong emotion that maintains an internal connection with a person. In certain situations, this can lead to the renewal of relations.
Reasons that can potentially push a partner to treason can be a lot. However, there is always an internal choice – to deceive a loved one or not. And everyone is responsible for this choice .